Saturday 17 December 2011

THE MEANING OF FRIENDSHIP

I got this from internet and found out it is very good for all of us to read and value our friendship..enjoy and make it a thought for today..
when I was a freshman in high school, I saw a kid from my class was walking home from school. His name was Kyle. It looked like he was carrying all of his books. I thought to myself, "Why would anyone bring home all his books on a Friday? He must really be a nerd."
I had quite a weekend planned (parties and a football game with my friends tomorrow afternoon), so I shrugged my shoulders and went on.
As I was walking, I saw a bunch of kids running toward him. They ran at him, knocking all his books out of his arms and tripping him so he landed in the dirt. His glasses went flying, and I saw them land in the grass about ten feet from him. He looked up and I saw this terrible sadness in his eyes.


My heart went out to him. So, I jogged over to him and as he crawled around looking for his glasses, and I saw a tear in his eye. As I handed him his glasses, I said, "Those guys are jerks. They really should get lives." He looked at me and said, "Hey thanks!" There was a big smile on his face. It was one of those smiles that showed real gratitude.

I helped him pick up his books, and asked him where he lived. As it turned out, he lived near me, so I asked him why I had never seen him before. He said he had gone to private school before now.

I would have never hung out with a private school kid before. We talked all the way home, and I carried some of his books. He turned out to be a pretty cool kid. I asked him if he wanted to play a little football with my friends. He said yes. We hung out all weekend and the more I got to know Kyle, the more I liked him, and my friends thought the same of him.
Monday morning came, and there was Kyle with the huge stack of books again.
I stopped him and said, "Boy, you are gonna really build some serious muscles with this pile of books everyday!" He just laughed and handed me half the books.

Over the next four years, Kyle and I became best friends. When we were seniors, we began to think about college. Kyle decided on Georgetown, and I was going to Duke.

I knew that we would always be friends, that the miles would never be a problem. He was going to be a doctor, and I was going for business on a football scholarship. Kyle was valedictorian of our class. I teased him all the time about being a nerd. He had to prepare a speech for graduation. I was so glad it wasn't me having to get up there and speak. Graduation day, I saw Kyle. He looked great. He was one of those guys that really found himself during high school. He filled out and actually looked good in glasses. He had more dates than I had and all the girls loved him. Boy, sometimes I was jealous.
Today was one of those days. I could see that he was nervous about his speech. So, I smacked him on the back and said, "Hey, big guy, you'll be great!" He looked
at me with one of those looks (the really grateful one) and smiled. "Thanks," he said.

As he started his speech, he cleared his throat, and began. "Graduation is a time to thank those who helped you make it through those tough years. Your parents, your teachers, your siblings, maybe a coach...but mostly your friends. I am here to tell all of you that being a friend to someone is the best gift you can give them. I am going to tell you a story."
I just looked at my friend with disbelief as he told the story of the first day we met. He had planned to kill himself over the weekend. He talked of how he had cleaned out his locker so his Mom wouldn't have to do it later and was carrying his stuff home. He looked hard at me and gave me a little smile.
"Thankfully, I was saved. My friend saved me from doing the unspeakable." I heard the gasp go through the crowd as this handsome, popular boy told us all about his
weakest moment. I saw his Mom and dad looking at me and smiling that same grateful smile. Not until that moment did I realize it's depth. Never underestimate the power of your actions. With one small gesture you can change a person's life. For better or for worse.


God puts us all in each other's lives to impact one another in some way..but sadly not all people react the same thing. People keep thinking about themselves..no one help me when i need one, so why should i? Right? But remember, what come around goes around..sooner or later, you will need the same helping hands. So acts before you regrets it.


I kept thinking..why would people want to kill themselves...then I found out the conclusion..we are too late to help them, we are not there when they need us the most. We are so busy with our own business that we forget we are all live in the same roof. We are family..but yet we ignore people that need the helping hands the most..


A real friend is a person who is there for you when you need him, it helps you when you have a problem, it keeps your secrets, shares things with you, bares you with all your qualities and defects. Of course, you have to treat all your friends the way you want to be treated and you always have to tell your friend the true, this is the only way to keep a real friend.


How about from today on, lets start our day with smile on our faces and asking someone "hey, are you okay?"..

Thursday 4 August 2011

I'm sorry, the magic words..

If I knew it would be the last time that i'd see u fall asleep,i would tuck you in more tightly and pray the lord your soul to keep.if I knew it would be the last time that I see u walk out the door,i would give u a hug and kiss and call u back for one more.if I knew it would be the last time i'd hear your voice lifted up in praise,i would video tape each action and word,so I could play them back day after day.if I knew it would be the last time,i could spare an extra minute or two to stop and say ' I love u ' instead of assuming,you would know I do.if I knew it would be the last time I would be there to share your day,well.i'm sure you'll have so many more,so I can let just this one slip away.for surely there's always tomorrow to make up for an oversight,and we always get a second chance to make everything right.there will always be another day to say our ' I love you ' and certainly there's another chance to say our ' anything I can do?'' But just in case I might be wrong,and today is all I get,i'd like to say how much I love u and I hope we never forget.tomorrow is not promised to anyone,young or old alike,and today maybe the last chance u gdt to hold your loved one tight.so if you're waiting for tomorrow,why not do it today?for if tomorrow never comes,you'll surely regret the day that u didn't take that extra time for a smile, a hug, or a kiss and u were too busy to grant someone, what turned out to be their one last wish.so hold your loved ones close today,whisper in their ear,tell them how much u love them and that you'll always hold them dear.take time to say '' i'm sorry '' ''please forgive me'' ''thank u '' or it's ok..and if tomorrow never comes,you'll have no regrets about today..

I got this interesting quote from someone. well, sorry for the copy and paste, hopeful no copyright involved. This quote make me thinking a lot about my past time. Here, please enjoy yourself and make this a thought for today..

I always regret the day i left him. Its not because i left him but i hated it because i can't bring myself to love his weaknesses and love him for who he is. Love is all about understanding and yet i can't bring myself to understand him. Now that we have chosen our own path i still thinking about him..wondering how will  my life with him. Days with him was like summer with garden of flowers, the air is fresh and the river flowing smoothly. Somehow, time change the way we think..we have our own thought and we fought and we hurt each others' feeling. That time i was wondering if we really care about each other. I keep thinking and i decided that we cannot be like this forever. So i left. Life going round but my mind always thinking about you and me. I'm sorry i can't be perfect for you..i can't be more good for you. I love you but i can't accept you for who you are..i'm not the one for you, i'm not ready yet. I'm sorry, its not you..its me. I blamed you for every fault and yet its mine. You accept all the blame and i'm sorry that i never says "i'm sorry". I thank God that we still can be friend..and it is an amazing friendship. Some people said that an ex-boyfriend or ex-girlfriend can't be friend. says who? We shared this amazing friendship. I couldn't asking for more than defending our friendship. Somehow, should someone dislike this friendship..don't bother to defend me any longer. You have every right to let go of this friendship. Its okay if you have to go away and its okay if you finally found someone else. Its okay and its alright.. all i wants is you being well and happy beside someone who can love you better than me. There,there Jess..its time to move on.